Once in a while, I have people around me who will chat with me and suddenly offer comments about certain friends of mine saying that they are no good and blah blah blah blah blah... They may not know my friends very well but they will always like to offer their comments. Very often than not, I will usually listen and not comment on anything.
I do not really like to comment on what other people has to say about my friends, simply because there is no point in arguing back with them trying to "protect" my friends. I am not really trying to avoid arguments. It is more of everyone has their own opinions about other people. They may know my friends at a different point of their life and thus view my friends in this way. However, most importantly, I judge my friends by how they treat me and not how they treat others. If my friends are treating me well as how a friend should treat each other, I see no reason why I should treat them otherwise. Even if they may be a bastard or a bitch to some other people, it really doesn't matter much to me. As long as they do not treat me that way, they can be the bastard or bitch in everyone eyes but they are still my friend. Things always happen for a reason. There may be a reason behind why they are such a bastard or a bitch but which not everyone will know the real reason, unless you are the privileged few. After all, I am in no position to judge them too since I am no angel myself.
In a way, I guess this is the bo chup attitude that I use on things around me. I do things the way I like and think is right, treat people the way they treat me and in a way, live my life the way I like. Just like even though sometimes I do know what I say may offend a colleague of mine, I will still tell her what I think I should let her know. After all, I don't like to keep too much things to myself. I have enough things that I am keeping to myself. I don't need to bother myself with such small little things. I already have many things running in my mind at the same time that I do not need to load anymore things into it anymore.
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